Thursday, June 21, 2007

Am I the Only One?

Grrrr....My kids fight CONSTANTLY lately! If they aren't fighting they are best friends but I'd say about 75% of the time they are fighting! And not just taking toys (but that is part of it) but they are yelling at each other and even hitting each other! Calling each other names and saying mean things to each other. Jozie gets bruises and scratches from Luke about once a week. Is this common? Am I the only one? I know that some would say that they learn from their parents but Bob has NEVER hit me or do we fight that often. When we do fight is quick and over with before you know it. We do yell when we fight like most people but it's rare - like once or twice a month. When we have disagreements it's nothing like the kids fighting, that's for sure!

I don't know what to do! I have tried to separate them but they just start making faces at each other and start laughing, so there goes the discipline purpose of it. I've tried the give-your-brother (or sister)-a-hug-and-say-you-are-sorry thing but that doesn't seem to work because the one receiving the hug and apology is usually angry and not in the mood to get it. I have tried soap in their mouths but the result isn't lasting, the name calling still persists, only with different words than what the soap was for...the list goes on...I need my Lisa Whelchel book, Creative Correction, but it's packed in a box somewhere, probably in the garage, and it's unaccessible right now...Grrrrr....

Anyway, here's the chance you all have been waiting for to give it to me with both guns and tell me what I need to do to better my parenting skills! :) Because something must be wrong here and I am clueless as to how to figure it out!

4 Comments For Risa:

Becca said...

Hey! Deja vu! My brother and I fought much of the time. I asked my mom when it would end (becuase he was mostly the one to pick on me) and she told me "when he's 16" and that's about when it stopped (he's 18 months older than me) and we were very good friends thru high school but it wasn't fun growing up and I think we drove my mom crazy...not sure what to tell ya as far as what to do about it tho....nothing seemed to work for us! I guess I'm just saying it's probably normal....tho very annoying!

Jamie said...

I heard that when you make them 'work' for each other and serve each other that that helps (like if Luke does something to Jozie make him clean her toys or something). Mine fight at times too. And it drives me nuts. I've also heard that "The Woodshed" is a good site-I think its raisinggodlytomatoes.com. I haven't looked much into it though. Those are just some thoughts! It's probably 'normal' though. Great, I know because I have 3 that fight!!!

Emily said...

You and Levi never fought like that? Ben and I fought and were best friends just like your kids. For us it stopped when I went into the 7th grade. I think it's normal but I know it can be frustrating. I think a big factor in it is how close they are and how much time they spend together. Once they start forming their own interests and doing things on their own it will stop.

Jodie said...

My older brother and I still fight like no other. I don't think you're doing a bad job or that you're kids are little terrors. Fighting is natural, especially if they are constantly around each other. ;)